Everyone says that the day you get married should be the happiest day of your life. Thinking about it, it sounds like that should be true. What could be better than vowing to spend the rest of your life with the partner of your dreams, before having a lovely meal and huge party with your nearest and dearest? But the truth is that wedding days are often extremely stressful and you might be so busy worrying and hoping that all your plans go right that you forget to enjoy yourself. Here are some tips on how to plan your wedding so you can really enjoy your big day.
No matter how organised you think you already are, you aren’t organised enough! Make a wedding binder and start a spreadsheet on Excel so you can see what exactly you’ve booked and what you’ve paid and what you still need to pay. You should also make a spreadsheet for your guests so you can see who’s RSVP’d, who’s coming to the ceremony, who’s coming to the evening event, and what food they’ve all ordered. Check out websites like ourstart.com to help you plan.
Make Your Guest List Early
Without a guest list, you also don’t have a budget or any idea about how large you need your venue to be. Aside from the date, your guest list is the first thing that you should solidify with your husband to be. This means that you can see exactly how much money you have to spend and how much space you need in your venue.
Trust your husband to be. What would be the point in marrying him if you couldn’t trust him to pay the venue deposit or to pick a wedding band? It’s very tempting to micromanage your wedding but the truth is that, for the sake of your own sanity, you need to trust other people to help you out too.
Discuss Your Future Plans
During your engagement, the last thing you want to be feeling is that you’re starting to get cold feet. Your wedding will probably cost a lot of money as you start to put down more and more deposits and as your family and friends start to book plane tickets and hotel rooms so they can be part of your special day. That’s why you should discuss your future with your husband to be as soon as you can, particularly if you had a whirlwind romance. Finding out that you don’t have the same vision of your future together would be heartbreaking but it’s important to make sure that you’re on the same page about having children, about where to live, and what you want your future to be. Make sure that you know these things about your future spouse as soon as you can.
Try To Enjoy It
Easier said than done, but do your best to make wedding planning fun! Take your husband to be cake tasting and enjoy it with him, go to a bar with your girlfriends after they’ve tried on their bridesmaid dresses, and take your mother to get her hair done when you’re looking for hairdressers. Try to make sure you really enjoy planning your wedding so that when your big day rolls around, you’re as excited as you possibly can be!